雅思口语Part2话题：浪费时间的活动—谈恋爱！今天跟大家聊聊恋爱这个话题。我绝对不是什么恋爱专家，只能算是个有失败经验的发言人。“浪费时间的活动”是本季的一道Part2口语话题。

　　在最近的一次课上，一个姑娘看到这个题目之后，立马跟我表达了她的思路—谈恋爱真的太TM浪费时间了，尤其是当你遭遇了无疾而终的爱情。

　　但是，恋爱本身就是很难预测未来。恋爱-结婚-终老，这是一种模式。恋爱-结婚-离婚，也是一种模式。还有一种是恋爱-分手，很多人经历过的模式。甚至有一种恐怖模式：恋爱-结婚-谋杀-碎尸。太可怕了！

　　所谓“不谈恋爱，屁事没有”，真的很有道理。

　　为什么女生普遍在分手后义愤填膺，甚至在过了很多年之后想起前任依旧是咬牙切齿的状态呢？

　　我估计应该是姑娘们普遍在恋爱的时候都幻想过未来要嫁给那个人吧，甚至有的人可能第一眼就沦陷了，把未来孩子的名字想好了什么的。所以，最后的分手就会让人有种“老娘这么多年的青春真是喂了狗”的感觉。

　　其实分手两个人都会痛苦，只是程度不同而已。青春也是一起浪费的，谁的青春没浪费过呢？

　　当下，很多姑娘高喊着要做富婆，只有自己有钱心里才踏实，说男人没用，都是渣男，都是废物，有钱没钱都出轨。这话呀，看出来了，这些姑娘是真绝望了，估计也被骗过，伤心了。

　　但是，她们在一个人独处的时候，委屈的时候，疲惫的时候，闺蜜和爸妈都不在身边的时候，真的会强大到不会胡思乱想么？表面的坚强掩盖不了内心的柔软。每一个不会撒娇的姑娘都是因为没有被温柔对待过吧。

　　所以，恋爱到底是不是一个浪费时间的行为？如果多次恋爱失败，是不是就要下定决心不再相信爱情？没有爱情的婚姻是无意义的么？婚姻一定是爱情的坟墓么？结婚是为了传宗接代么？是为了给父母一个安慰么？恋爱专家对于这些问题能够给出一个完美的答案么？

　　如果爱情会让人变成傻子，那么我们应该甘之如饴还是清醒拒绝一切可能的爱情，认认真真地决定绝对不做一个傻子？

　　我只有问号，没有答案。

　　但是这道题目我可以给大家一个参考答案。

　　I often fall in love with the wrong person, again and again. I have alot of bad romances. I started to date when I was in college and experienced a few relationships. However, I am single now and I don’t feel like dating anyone at this moment.

　　I used to believe that falling in love is a very romantic and magical thing since the word “love” is so beautiful and special.Therefore, when I failed in a relationship, I would always try to find myself back and be prepared to meet another person. Some of my relationships last for over two years. Some last for a few months. To think about them today, I would say that I have indeed wasted a lot of time since no one becomes my permanent partner.

　　Compared with some of my friends who dated only once and got married with their date, I seem to be a big loser.

　　Actually, I didn’t think being in a relationship is a waste of time in the past. I was always concentrated and serious with the boys.However, now, I think differently. If I fall in love with a wrong person again, I may end up alone again. I don’t trust intimate relationships any more. To some extent, I don’t trust men any more.I could always use my precious time to keep company with my parents and friends. It’s more fruitful to focus on improving myself and spending time with those who really love me and those who deserve my love. Bad romance can only bring me hurt and disappointment. I don’t want to waste my time any more.

　　其实，我依旧相信爱情。